Someone asked me the other day about regrets and do I have regrets? If they had asked me this several years ago I may have stopped to think as it takes many experiences and experience in life to be clear on this. My answer to the question recently was simply no.
I’ve made choices in life and some of these choices have been really poor and really stupid, quite silly or just basically the wrong decision. If we're given a chance to make a choice, we shouldn't regret that. We have to be accountable and we have to accept that we made a decision, we chose to go down a certain path, looking back, okay, it wasn't the right decision at the time but you know what? I did it, it was a wrong thing but I've learned from it and that's the key, isn't it? Learning from your mistakes and actually making sure that we do things differently the next time.
Also, that whole thing about ‘never look back’ and ‘always look forward’, that's impossible nowadays. We've got Facebook popping up saying, remember this memory from frigging two years ago. We've got broken relationships where we constantly might bump into our ex partner. We might live in a small town or a small city or a small village where we're constantly reminded of that past. So if we're trying to tell ourselves, we believe in the philosophy that we should never look back and we should only look forward yet we're constantly being reminded of that past, it's not really going to be a healthy way to think. We're gonna be constantly letting ourselves down because we're actually trying to achieve a certain philosophy, yet we can't. So I would say it's okay to look back. It's okay to reflect, don't regret. Just reflect and look back and actually be quite positive about the fact and go, looking how far I've come, that's a really positive thing. Look how much I've grown and how much I've achieved and how much I've improved myself and raised my level of happiness or well-being and achieved a higher sense of work-life balance, be more successful or whatever the case may be.
So to answer that one question, do I have regrets? No, I had choices and I may have made the wrong choices at times but you know what? That's fine, I don't regret it. I just made sure that I learned from it. I hope that helps.
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